THE CONSISTENCY COLLECTIVE
I wasn't born to live an ordinary life.
One small promise at a time.
Live. No filters. No cherry-picking.
Last Updated: July 24, 2026 · Next Update: August 7, 2026
Day 151 of 365. So far I've kept 2,381 small promises to myself.
the why
Why I'm running a 365-day habit experiment
⏳ For most of my life, I put other people's promises first.
💭 I didn't want to reach the end of 10 more years wishing.
Wishing I'd taken care of my health.
Wishing I'd made time for what matters to me.
🎯 I can't control the future. I can control my actions today.
That's how this experiment was born.
✨ I didn't know any of this in my first 40 years. Now that I do, I want a joyful, extraordinary life. A story worth telling.
📖 This page is the living proof. All of it. The good and the bad.
THE EXPERIMENT
Keeping promises to myself.
I'm running a public experiment to show what consistency actually looks like — Behind The Scenes.
Life is busy. Tomorrow never comes.
So I'm designing systems to make time for what my future self would be proud of.
I can't control the future. I can control my actions today.
Tracking changes behavior. Not because I'm disciplined — because I made the invisible visible.
the story so far
177 out of 181 days. Not perfectly. Consistently.
An active day means one small promise kept, in any habit. Not all eight.
When I miss a day, I'm usually back within 2.
2 habits didn't survive. I retired them. On purpose.
halftime honesty
6 months into this experiment: what consistency looks like with a busy life
The full half-year story is coming next. This is the scoreboard.
📊 What happened. Surgery. A family emergency that derailed all plans. Travel while sick. And still: 29 of 30 days counted in June. 177 of 181 for the half-year.
June, day by day. The 1 red square = surgery day. Back the next morning.
🧘 What's still hard. Meditation took 5 months to stick. It stuck only when I made it smaller: chanting in bed at night. 2 habits stay retired on purpose. I'm telling you because nobody else will.
🧠 Why it worked anyway. Missing a day does not break a habit — science checked this (Lally, 2010). Giving up after a missed day is what breaks it.
🎁 Steal this. Don't count streaks. Count comebacks.
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hard-earned lessons
What 6 years of building habits taught me
🍂 Habits have seasons
Some months are for pushing. Some are for holding on. Both count. When my daughter came home for the summer, I dialed my habits down. On purpose. Travel, late nights, more time with her. That was the plan, not a failure. Your seasons change with your life stage. Choose your habits for the season you're in.
🎚️ Habits have speeds
Low: I showed up. Medium: I showed up and feel good about it. High: all in, and I say no to other things. My workout runs at high. I'm in my late 40s and I want to age strong. I told everyone it matters. Now nobody books over it. The higher something sits on your priority list, the higher the speed. Everything else can toggle.
🧪 Tips I tested on my own life
Devices off by 8:30 gave me better sleep. I tested 8, 9, and 10 to find it. Then I made it automatic: tennis at 8 pm, three nights a week. By the time I'm home and showered, there's no energy left for a screen. Your version won't be tennis. The trick is designing backwards from the time that works. Works for me, might not for you.
🧭 You learn when to push and when to pause
Track yourself long enough and you start to just know. When to go harder. When to ease up. Nobody can teach you your own rhythm. But tracking shows it to you, pattern by pattern. The myths I believed about myself broke one by one when I saw the data.
💛 Consistency is for the faint-hearted too
This isn't for all-or-nothing people. You show up when you can. Then you grow the number of when-you-cans. A plant doesn't grow overnight. It has good seasons and bad seasons, and it's still the same plant. The goal is not a perfect week. The goal is more show-ups this season than last.
⏳ 6 years, not 21 days
My consistency didn't take 21 days. It took 6 years of trial and error. Months of not showing up. Restarts. Then one day the epiphany: I cannot live my life like this. What you see on this page is year six, not week three. You don't have to spend the 6 years. That's what this page is for.